CornerstoneDad Podcast #15 – Reggie’s First Sermon: The Sin Line

If we were to take this photo again today, Reg would be one of the tallest in the shot instead of being "the little guy". Rob is with the Lord now, but I couldn't help but think of how proud he would be been of Reg as well.

As we wrap up our time here in our area, our days of going to the mission in our city are coming to an end. My boys have spent much time there and I’ve been asking my 16-year-old for about a year if he ever wanted to speak.

Praise God, this time, he said he was ready, and you can listen to the message HERE.

So many times we get more excited about our kid’s sports achievement, than we do about their spiritual lives. However, lets tell the truth, we get excited about how fast they run, hit, throw, swim, etc., because of the pride it brings us and the possibility of riches. We forget about

Matthew 6:21:For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also

and

Ecclesiastes 5:10: Whoever loves money never has enough;
    whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income.
    This too is meaningless.

Yes indeed, it is truly meaningless. It would be much more difficult for our children to follow Christ making $10M per year and fame than $35K per year teaching in a school.

But 1 Cor. 9:24-25 says:

Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.  

I’m so very proud of my son, and I thank God for his grace in allowing me to see him grow more as a brother in Christ, as he grows into the man that God wants him to be.

If we were to take the above photo again today, Reg would be one of the tallest in the shot instead of being “the little guy”. Rob is with the Lord now, but I couldn’t help but think of how proud he would be been of Reg as well.

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Homeschool History Lesson Of The Week: 12 Childhood Nursery Rhymes You Didn’t Realize Were Racist

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Homeschool History Lesson of the Week recommendation!

12 Childhood Nursery Rhymes You Didn’t Realize Were Racist

Folks, you must check this out. How many of them did you sing as a child or teach your children?

Now some will still say, “Why does everything have to be about race?” Well, my question is the same, why did everything have to be about so-called race?

For Christians that say, “Isn’t this just about being PC?” Well, would we have the children sing an Xmas song that was actually a tribute to satan but the words have been changed? How many won’t even let their kids read Harry Potter because of witchcraft?

This list of 12 could be analyzed at 3 per day, having the children investigate the 5Ws and 1H:

Who wrote it?
What is the song about and trying to teach?
Where was it most popular?
When was it written and popular?
Why would these songs/rhymes be so popular?
How do you view these songs now that you know the real meaning? (The “how” could vary depending on age).

*Make Learning Expose This Life!*

CSD Ride Out: Welcome To Idlewild, Michigan

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The Streets of Idlewild

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How big was Idlewild? “By the 1950s and early 1960s, Idlewild reached the height of its popularity. During those years nearly 25,000 vacationers made their way to the community, temporarily overwhelmingly the permanent year-round population. During this era Idlewild boasted more than 300 black-owned businesses.” – Blackpast.org

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Looking forward to The Comeback!

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“Morton’s has been home to music greats such as Aretha Franklin, the Four Tops and Della Reese. Our comfortable, recently renovated guest rooms – some with kitchenettes – Great Room with adjoining large kitchen and cable TV, outdoor open space dotted with lawn chairs, picnic courtyard with umbrella tables and canopied patio are some of our attractions. We provide a warm, inviting place…”- http://www.michigan.org/property/morton-s-motel/

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“While the clubs attracted black patrons, they were often examples of interracial mingling. As one Idlewild resident recalled, the clubs filled to capacity every night, and on some nights, “there were more white people in there than blacks. It wasn’t about race, it was about fun…
Idlewild, like other all-black resorts, would not survive the civil rights movement. As formerly white-only clubs and resorts across the nation integrated in the late 1960s, Idlewild went into decline. Its clubs and hotels closed as blacks began to frequent other resorts.” –blackpast.org

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“Judith Griffin now lives in New Jersey, but her family would drive from Chicago to Idlewild resort in Michigan every summer. Griffin recalls one trip where her father—one of the few black gastroenterologists at that time—pulled over to save the lives of motorists in a very bad accident. ..Because of discrimination, families like Griffin’s were forced to use what was called “The Green Book.” It was a directory of stops that would serve African Americans on the road.” –http://wmuk.org/post/black-travel-during-jim-crow-illustrated-green-book

CSD Saying Happy Father’s Day With Never Released Before Content

First, Happy Father’s Day to all my CSDs out there!

You know, it seems just like yesterday. The years I spent as a single-dad when my son was between 10-15 years old were the worst compared to the other 13 years. During this time period, I was struggling financially and trying to finish school to earn my degree, with the hope of coming up in this land of milk-n-honey. I was also trying to provide for my other children that were being born with my wife and also going to work at various places meant days that never ended and stress that felt like I was carrying a weight 24/7.

My poor sociology teacher had to read all about my struggles, as I poured my heart out in essay after essay. My son was at an age where he could choose (he was not given that “right” by me, but by his mom and the court) whether he wanted to come over to my home or not, and oftentimes for various reasons, he would not. Perhaps the ultimate knife in my chest was when he told the referee that he did not want to come to my home, as there were too many rules, he did not have fun and all we did was go over his grandparent’s house. My heart stopped beating that day in the court room, as I was fighting to maintain the visitation rights that I fought for when he was just a baby. I thought, “And this is how I get paid back?” “I’m being treated worse than Cain who said, ‘It ain’t mine’ and bounced. For those who have seen Menace To Society, they know what I’m talking about.

But it was all of those experiences that moved me to create this blog years later.

The essay below was one that I wrote in 2001 for my Social Science Theory class. My superb professor had us all develop a theory by the end of the semester, as she knew that social and psychological theories that change the world are not only born when you have a Ph.D.. So it is in the environment above that I have described, that my Alliance Theory was born. When I performed my research for the paper (yes, done without the internet and we had just got a computer for me to type this on), I learned that my theory had basically been previously presented and was known as Parental Alienation Syndrome.

I’ve never shared this publicly, and I’m posting pictures of the essay until I can type a more recent edition. Therefore, you get to see all of my grammar mistakes, the faded paper, etc.. But I wanted to share this on Father’s Day to once again encourage those of you struggling as well. You may not get to see your son or daughter today, as they may choose (or the mother may choose for them) to spend it with a new guy, with mommy or a step-father instead.

I know it hurts. It hurts to watch you and your child’s relationship melt and you seem to be the only one that cares. You know your child has no idea the impact that this is going to have in his or her life. But you hang in there. Never give up and cry to yourself if necessary. Emotions usually spring forth in the only way society allows men to grieve, and that’s through anger and violence. But you probably know that when you lose control in those arguments, you lose. She can just pick up her “toys” if you will, and go home. You look like the bad-guy, and to your child, you are that bad guy. Why? Read the essay below.

Make today a special day for yourself. It’s special because you are still there, whether your son or daughter understands right now or not.

Now this was written 14 years ago, but what do you think? How has your life experience been and does this theory fit your situation? Let me know in the comments below or email me.

So again, if that phone doesn’t ring or no one comes to visit, you at least get a heart felt Happy Father’s Day from CSD my man, and may God bless you.

Peace.

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Cops Behaving Badly Video of the Day: Police Assault Teens At Texas Pool Party

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“Brandon Brooks, who posted the unedited video clip titled Cops Crash Pool Party on Saturday, wrote that “this kind of force is uncalled for, especially on children and innocent bystanders.”

In an e-mail to USA TODAY College, Brooks said he felt “invisible” to the cops and that he recorded the incident to demand department accountability: “I knew that what the cops were doing was wrong and that the video could hopefully provide some evidence to someone.”

I’m going to let the person who recorded this incident do the talking on this one.

Okay, I have to at least note a few things:

– this one may be one to go over with your young teenagers. I’ve told my son who is now 6’0 200lbs, that the police will never view him as a boy, but as a man (again, Tamir Rice is an example), so he must know and conduct himself accordingly.

– Did you see all those “good officers” that we hear so much about stopping their guy?

– If you, as a parent, would have behaved this way with your child in the middle of the street, would people just “understand” or would child protective services be at your doorstep to remove your kids that night?

– What happened to the African-American male, who got emotional and wanted to help this young girl and had the officer’s gun pulled on him, when the police brought him back? I wonder what happened to have him bleeding?

– What would the NATIONAL conversation be if the girl would have been white, same size, with long blond hair?

– Good thing the cops keep us safe from these “thugs”, oh…I mean, these suburbanite kids at a pool party not wearing hoodies but swim suits. All this for a fight? As someone who went to a suburbanite school where there were fights at numerous sporting events, I never remember LEOs acting like this.

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(Warning: Video has foul language…mostly used by the police officer at the kids)

 

Must Read Article: “I’m a black ex-cop, and this is the real truth about race and policing”

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Why have I been blogging about race and police violence so much? Because it is kids that look like mine that are dying and most in this country do not care, because it’s not their problem. But I fear for my sons and if you have darker skin and are reading this, yours as well.

No matter how much we teach them “proper manners”,  how to dress and give a firm handshake, home school them and teach them to remain sexually pure…when the LEO sees them walking, riding a bike (yes, look it up), and of course driving, those lights are getting tripped because our boys are seen as the face of criminal behavior regardless of what the statistics say. It’s in our country’s DNA, and this is why we cannot ignore, and I will not on this blog, the racial component. Therefore, any action even viewed (e.g. Tamir Rice) as defiant can end in death. At best, the LEO will approach them like they’re dealing with a gang member, not the 4x per week, active youth group, mission-taking, home schooled, authority-respecting young man that you’ve tried to raise.

That part, I can tell you from experience, has never changed in this country.

That leads me to today’s post. This is the best article that I’ve read so far concerning the police violence that we are hearing about regularly today.

Personally, I’m tired of the ignorant straw-man arguments about LEOs. Many still use the “you don’t understand how hard it is…” like some Uno Draw Four card to win the discussion. First, that certainly doesn’t work on me, as I know that one doesn’t have to “be in the shoes” to judge right and wrong. If that’s the case, most of the people saying, “What about black-on-black” crime?” have no validity as many are not “black”.

That said, here’s someone who has been there, so what do you think he has to say? Here are some excerpts:

“On any given day, in any police department in the nation, 15 percent of officers will do the right thing no matter what is happening. Fifteen percent of officers will abuse their authority at every opportunity. The remaining 70 percent could go either way depending on whom they are working with. That’s a theory from my friend K.L. Williams, who has trained thousands of officers around the country in use of force…”.

“And I worked with people like the president of my police academy class, who sent out an email after President Obama won the 2008 election that included the statement, “I can’t believe I live in a country full of ni**er lovers!!!!!!!!” He patrolled the streets in St. Louis in a number of black communities with the authority to act under the color of law.”

“It is not only white officers who abuse their authority. The effect of institutional racism is such that no matter what color the officer abusing the citizen is, in the vast majority of those cases of abuse that citizen will be black or brown. That is what is allowed.”

“The profession — the endeavor — is noble. But this myth about the general goodness of cops obscures the truth of what needs to be done to fix the system…Institutional racism runs throughout our criminal justice system. Its presence in police culture, though often flatly denied by the many police apologists that appear in the media now, has been central to the breakdown in police-community relationships for decades in spite of good people doing police work.”

“Beyond the many unarmed blacks killed by police, including recently Freddie Gray in Baltimore, other police abuses that don’t result in death foment resentment, distrust, and malice toward police in black and brown communities all over the country. Long before Darren Wilson shot and killed unarmed Michael Brown last August, there was a poisonous relationship between the Ferguson, Missouri, department and the community it claimed to serve. For example, in 2009 Henry Davis was stopped unlawfully in Ferguson, taken to the police station, and brutally beaten while in handcuffs. He was then charged for bleeding on the officers’ uniforms after they beat him.”

“About that 15 percent of officers who regularly abuse their power: a major problem is they exert an outsize influence on department culture and find support for their actions from ranking officers and police unions. Chicago is a prime example of this:…The victims were electrically shocked, suffocated, and beaten into false confessions that resulted in many of them being convicted and serving time for crimes they didn’t commit.  One man, Darrell Cannon, spent 24 years in prison for a crime he confessed to but didn’t commit. He confessed when officers repeatedly appeared to load a shotgun and after doing so each time put it in his mouth and pulled the trigger. Other men received electric shocks until they confessed.”

“This allows him to leave viewers with the impression that the recent protests against police brutality are baseless, and that allegations of racism are “totally wrong — just not true.” The reality of police abuse is not limited to a number of “very small incidents” that have impacted black people nationwide, but generations of experienced and witnessed abuse.The media is complicit in this myth-making: notice that the interviewer does not challenge Safir. She doesn’t point out, for example, the over $1 billion in settlementsthe NYPD has paid out over the last decade and a half for the misconduct of its officers. She doesn’t reference the numerous accounts of actual black or Hispanic NYPD officers who have been profiled and even assaulted without cause when they were out of uniform by white NYPD officers.”

“Instead she leads him with her questions to reference the heroism, selflessness, risk, and sacrifice that are a part of the endeavor that is law enforcement, but very clearly not always characteristic of police work in black and brown communities. The staging for this interview — US flag waving, somber-faced officers — is wash, rinse, and repeat with our national media. When you take a job as a police officer, you do so voluntarily. You understand the risks associated with the work. But because you signed on to do a dangerous job does not mean you are then allowed to violate the human rights, civil rights, and civil liberties of the people you serve. It’s the opposite. You should protect those rights, and when you don’t you should be held accountable. That simple statement will be received by police apologists as “anti-cop.”  It is not.”

Please read the full article HERE!

This one needs to be bookmarked if you’re tired of some of those discussions as well.

 

Sgt. James Brown – Iraq War Veteran’s Last Moments Before Dying In Police Custody

 

james_brown_c0-25-640-398_s561x327This one was probably the hardest murder by the police that I’ve watched of them all. So many parts of the story make no sense whatsoever. Another thing that rings loud is that if a Veteran gets this kind of treatment, why is it hard for folks to believe that African American boys & men perceived as “thugs” aren’t getting treated the same for doing nothing as well? There’s always the presupposition that, “They must have done something…” to warrant the death penalty.

Please remember, that’s just what all of these killings are, the death penalty, because video after video, story after story indicates that there is no threat to the officers lives.

His name: Army Sgt. James Brown.

His mom, Dinette Robinson-Scott, wanted the public to see what happened to her son. Like other mom’s, this points back to the same goal of Emmett Till’s mother, Mamie Till. She wanted that open casket so the world could see what America was doing. It was a way to shame the country into repentance.

Has America been shamed enough yet? Jet magazine’s photo of Emmett provoked outrage everywhere in 1954. But in our video age…Video of Tamir Rice wasn’t enough? Video of John Crawford wasn’t enough? Video of Walter Scott wasn’t enough? Video of Eric Garner wasn’t enough?

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This is why I DO NOT co-sign the Evangelicals when they claim God is going to punish America for its lack of morality TODAY (e.g. homosexuality, abortion). Just because murder(er)s, (who went away free as evidenced by the kiss above), were ignored, do you think God was pleased with this country then?

 

The list keeps growing…

Oh, and let me mention that I didn’t see any of those “good officers” that everyone always point to, running to AT LEAST call 9-1-1. Obviously intervening is too much to ask.

Now I wonder what the liberals would say if this had been video of an American soldier doing this to an Iraqi citizen, and the Pro-Life conservatives? If you have no problem with this, is there any truth to the saying that “they seem to only care about life in the womb, but they truly don’t care about life outside of the womb.”

I thought time & space was our argument and that life is life. Life is God-given and has personhood in the woman, not just outside the woman.

Amazing all the things from his past that were brought up as “possible causes” like PTSD & “sickle cell crisis”? (Will this trait now be used against every African American with sickle cell seeing that we’re the main ones afflicted? Shame that he served in Iraq twice, survived combat, only to come home and be killed while serving a DWI sentence that he turned himself in for. The fact that emergency medical services were never called is very telling. Sad that this is how he got thanked for his service…and he likely won’t get a movie ever made about him.

Another child to be raised without a dad.

Another parent, burying her son.

As the saying goes these days. If the country really wanted to do something about single parent black families, stop killing their fathers (or putting them in prison for crimes that you later make legal…but we’ll pick up the drug discussion another day).

You can read more of the story HERE.

Get Your Copy Now: Resurrecting Black Wall Street

Get the order in and add this to the family library!

Just in case you think the story is less true because it’s being told by African-Americans, you can read Tulsa’s very own report yourself done decades later (yes, it’s easy to find online if you want to make the effort).

Or I’ll give you a freebie, as you can listen to the short podcast HERE by two Caucasian women on a show called, you guessed it, Stuff You Missed In History Class.

Well, truth be told, I can’t miss something I was never taught.

My kids know all about it though, and that’s why we love home schooling!!!

“Resurrecting Black Wall Street” not only tells the story of what happened, but discusses the aftermath.  We discuss the fight for reparations that was never answered by the Oklahoma legislature.  The film also discusses ways that the black community can learn from those who had the vision to create a kingdom of cooperative economics unlike anything seen before or since that tragic period in 1921. 

The film features several expert commentators, including Finance PhD Dr Boyce Watkins, Dominique Reese,  Michael Imhotep of the African History Network, and many more.  You MUST (emphasis theirs) share this story with your children and we must learn from this tragedy in order to build a better tomorrow.” – http://store.yourblackworld.net/products/resurrecting-black-wall-street-dvd-pre-order

 

Single Dad’s, Today Is Now

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Tonight I was talking to a young man who’s about to be a father and wonders if his life is over. May I encourage all of you single dads that actually, your life has just begun. If you think you’ve never accomplished anything in school, at work, or wherever…now you can. If you didn’t have a father in your life, now you can show your child what it’s really like to have one. What can seem like something that has destroyed your life, can be what saves your life. If you’ve been living that “do-nothin” life in this country, they have a cell and/or grave waiting for you. But your child can give you something to set that alarm clock for in the morning. Someone to make you say, “Nah, I’m not going there or doing that…”. Someone that you can put your legacy and values on FOREVER. You will never do that at a job, never do that at a school, but you have an opportunity to do that in your child’s life…and that’s why God allowed YOU to be a father. Everybody else in your life may have said, and may still say, “That ___ isn’t ever going to do anything with their life.” But one day you’ll realize that other people’s opinions don’t pay your child support, hold your kid’s hand, teach them how to catch, or touch you in ways that will have you in tears like you’re the baby. You fellas get up in the morning knowing that you got something to live for, and die for, and be thankful not sorry, that your life will never be the same.

Reasons African-Americans May Want To Homeschool: To Keep Them Out Of The School To Prison Pipeline

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Proverbs 20:23 – Unequal weights are an abomination to the LORD, and false scales are not good.

I think this video sums things up in less time it would take me to type up a post.

However, I’ll just say that personally, I’ve witnessed this long before I ever knew about “The Pipeline”.

In my suburban high school, our basketball team got into a major parking lot brawl with another suburban high school. Cops were called, no one went to jail, and guys were bragging about the action the next day in school.

Fast forward a few years…my brother was attending a high school in the city. He got involved in a food fight in the cafeteria. School staff broke up the fight, called the police, and my parents got the call to pick him up from jail. The story didn’t end there, as he later had a court case (ironically held in our neighborhood middle school with a bunch of other school “court” cases), and had to have his recruiter vouch for him that he was a “good kid” and would soon be in the military, so don’t punish him.

Perhaps his biggest crime was not getting into a fight when he went to a school in the ‘burbs instead.

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Chris Broussard Tells It Like It Is: That ‘An Educated Black Man’, Is The Scariest Thing In America!

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I’m becoming a huge fan of Broussard…check out kingmovement.com, as the brother is really getting out there, representing for black fathers hard!

Best of all, he’s seeing that they have to be reached long before fatherhood, and that’s the message in the video below. I can’t imagine posting much from BET, but I’m glad for this one.

Check out this short excerpt HERE.

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