I don’t know about you, but my dad was much more like this guy…
- …than this guy!
CornerstoneDad on True Riches With The Mission Men – Is Your Church Too Feminized?
Father’s Day is around the corner and I want you to do old CSD a favor.
Is the message different that what you heard on Mother’s Day?
If your Mother’s Day message praised and exalted motherhood, do you expect the Father’s Day message to do the same?
Unfortunately, in many churches that I’ve belong to, the exact opposite happened. Father’s were lectured, told they needed to do more, and made-fun-of like and talked about like they are Homer Simpson more than Joseph, the earthly father of Jesus.
What is going on? Why don’t men go to church? Why are women having to drag men to church?
Check out this two part series on True Riches With The Mission Men and leave us your comments.
Are we way off? Right on the mark? Too sensitive? Is the problem worse than what we even discussed?
We’re on iTunes! Just click the link below to listen to Has The Church Become Too Feminized I and II.
http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/missionmens-space/id497193471
Furious Fathering 
I listened to your two part message and waited to gather my thoughts.
You mentioned the church is made up families. So if the church is a reflection of the family then one can conclude that if more women are in the church then there is a problem with family structure not the church becoming feminized.
If you do a study on those churches in your statistics you quoted, I’m willing to believe that there is no HUSBAND in the home, whether it be through; divorce, widow or never marrying. Out of the ones who are left I am also willing to conclude that they are either NON BELIEVERS, or just those guys that call Sunday their day and not the LORD’s day.
Until we as believers HELP fix the family structure to its proper position, this trend will continue.
Also depending on where a person is in their life when they get married(going to church,holding an office, or being in an auxiliary ) reflects where they may attend service, if they attend at all.
If you got the women leading the house because a man has not stepped up into his role, it’s the mans fault, not the CHURCH’s. feminization has occurred throughout society when we allowed the welfare system to dismantle the home structure and keep the MAN hidden. You see all so called “Free Money” isn’t free it cost you somewhere down the line in the future you have not even thought of.
Good topic, though I would encourage you to expound upon the real reason of existence.
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Great comments as always!
I agree that the crisis facing the church is a reflection of the crisis going on in the home today. Since our radio show deals with church issues/topics, we had to approach the topic through the lens of how it’s effecting what is going on in the church. But I’d love to do a podcast episode with you from the family aspect as we also have more time here.
The main point was to begin discussing the “elephant in the room”. It’s a topic effecting churches that we do not even think twice about (again, much like what’s going on in families today) as more and more churches move away from the Biblical model of leadership. A deeper study on church demographics would certainly be nice, but the numbers are what they are, so I can’t conclude that men are not around. I can just say that personally, I know more women that attend alone because their husbands do not want to go, not because there is no husband at home at all. If the husband’s are non-believers, sadly they will never come to Christ via the doors of many churches because the gospel is only preached on Easter and Christmas. Many of the other Sundays, messages are more topical or geared towards those who are already Believes (that’s a series of shows in itself).
I never want to say “men are not stepping up”, and we addressed that on the show. As Christians, we would never say that a woman should have a child without a father because she just can’t find a “good-man”. We would never say that a man should just marry another man because he can’t find a “good-woman”. Whether in the home or at church, we have to follow God’s order regardless of what’s expedient for us personally/culturally. Whether Old or New Testament, God raised men to lead when there seemed to be none available (Moses, David, the “wimpy” disciples) so I have full faith that there are plenty of men ready to lead now, and perhaps the church needs to focus on discipleship to prepare these men to lead in their churches and families in order for us to get on the right track for the future. As you stated and as we are seeing, to not allow/prepare these men is going to cost us in the future and that was the catalyst for us doing the show…we are beginning to pay the price now.
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