In upcoming podcasts, I’m going to touch on sports and its impact on our dreams, our children, and our parenting. Dr. Boyce Watkins of Your Black World and Financial Juneteenth, breaks down exactly where I plan to go on the topic. (If you can’t see the video, click HERE).
Although many parents still claim, “grades before games” or “we just play to learn important life lessons”, my years as both an athlete, trainer of athletes, and kids who have played a combined 40 years (that is a lot of mileage racked up on my cars and body carrying folding chairs) tell me other wise. For many, when that child shows athletic skill that transcends the average, and whispers begin, “…they could even get a scholarship”, “scouts may be coming to the school to see them play…” and the goal changes.
As I’ve discussed before, the idea for us to homeschool our children came from one of my athletes. It was at that moment I learned that many athletes, like celebrities, get homeschooled to take advantage of personal training and coaching. For some reason, the “what about socialization” question goes out the door, and in comes the “you have to do what you have to do to get to the top!”
Now for parents of black athletes, they really must make a conscious effort to put each opportunity in perspective.
How much of our child’s life are you willing to give to the school?
Are you willing to let them do anything to your son or daughter, just because they promise them a chance to the professional level?
Is some coach promising to be “dad”, when YOU are the father?
What is your child focusing on right now, athletics or academics?
What will your child do with his or her life if they do not make it to the professional level?
So check out Boyce and his other projects as well, as I’ll be promoting more of his great work that continues to expand.
In the comments below, I’d love to hear any stories you have on athletes that you know that beat, or were beaten, by the system.