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Comment Highlight From Big Kev – You Know You’re Getting Older When…

Posted on September 11, 2013 by Cool Pappa

Big Kev left this in the comment section of yesterday’s post (see here) and I felt it deserved to be front and center. I’m sorry, but the Urgent Care transition gets the LOL for real!

I’ve been here before as well, as I distinctly remember the day Kory beat me running for the first time. I would have beat him if it would’ve been a 25- yard race, but it was 40-yards and he ended up smoking me!

Derek Redmond in the 1992 Olympics – CSD Strength is being able and ready to carry our kid’s home, no matter what their age.

“Well sir, I hope you reach your 90% / one week goal, as I too am in the process of recuperating. Out taking a leisurely walk with the family Saturday evening and was feeling rather good after returning home. My teenage sons had taken off on a foot race….had I allowed my brain to complete its factoring of variables as to why I would have been the perfect spectator…I would not have taken pursuit. Now, I must say that I surprised them both at the rate I was able to “catch” them but catching them wasn’t good enough, heyday memories began to cloud my judgement and I lined my oldest up for a “I’ll show you” sprint!!
We were given the ready, set, go….I shot out of the blocks seeing victory ahead…I lost? After leaving Urgent Care, I was told its only a sprained knee and I only have to wear the knee brace for about a week.
I’ll get him next time.”

Thanks Big Kev!

I wish you a speedy recovery as well my man and I’m glad it was only a sprain.

If I have to mention Big Kev, I gotta throw up a pic of a Comet GT! The times we had in that ride...

If we have something from Big Kev, I gotta throw up a pic of a Comet GT! The times we had in that ride…

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CSD Thought Of The Day: All Pro Dad – 10 Sacrifices Every All Pro Dad Should Make

Image | Posted on August 16, 2013 by Cool Pappa

CSD Thought Of The Day: Having A Hard Time Getting Out Of Bed Every Day?

Posted on July 24, 2013 by Cool Pappa

Proverbs 24:30-34

English Standard Version (ESV)

30 I passed by the field of a sluggard,
by the vineyard of a man lacking sense,
31 and behold, it was all overgrown with thorns;
the ground was covered with nettles,
and its stone wall was broken down.
32 Then I saw and considered it;
I looked and received instruction.
33 A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest,
34 and poverty will come upon you like a robber,
and want like an armed man.

Zimmerman Is Guilty? Not Guilty? The Ultimate Judge Will Judge Him and All of Us, So Are You A Good Person?

Posted on July 14, 2013 by Cool Pappa

Photo taken at: Creation Museum

After hearing the verdict, there’s not much more to say as I said much on the podcast a year ago (click HERE to listen).

1 John 3:15-24, ESV

Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.

16 By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.

But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him? 18 Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

19 By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our heart before him; 20 for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything. 21 Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God; 22 and whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him. 23 And this is his commandment, that we believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one another, just as he has commanded us. 24 Whoever keeps his commandments abides in God,and God in him. And by this we know that he abides in us, by the Spirit whom he has given us.

Psalm 139

O Lord, you have searched me and known me!

2 You know when I sit down and when I rise up;

you discern my thoughts from afar.

3 You search out my path and my lying down

and are acquainted with all my ways.

4 Even before a word is on my tongue,

behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.

5 You hem me in, behind and before,

and lay your hand upon me.

6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;

it is high; I cannot attain it.

7 Where shall I go from your Spirit?

Or where shall I flee from your presence?

8 If I ascend to heaven, you are there!

If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!

9 If I take the wings of the morning

and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,

10 even there your hand shall lead me,

and your right hand shall hold me.

11 If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,

and the light about me be night,”

12 even the darkness is not dark to you;

the night is bright as the day,

for darkness is as light with you.

13 For you formed my inward parts;

you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.

14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

Wonderful are your works;

my soul knows it very well.

15 My frame was not hidden from you,

when I was being made in secret,

intricately woven in the depths of the earth.

16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance;

in your book were written, every one of them,

the days that were formed for me,

when as yet there was none of them.

17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!

How vast is the sum of them!

18 If I would count them, they are more than the sand.

I awake, and I am still with you.

19 Oh that you would slay the wicked, O God!

O men of blood, depart from me!

20 They speak against you with malicious intent;

your enemies take your name in vain.

21 Do I not hate those who hate you, O Lord?

And do I not loathe those who rise up against you?

22 I hate them with complete hatred;

I count them my enemies.

23 Search me, O God, and know my heart!

Try me and know my thoughts!

24 And see if there be any grievous way in me,

and lead me in the way everlasting!

CSD Kid Story of the Day: Sometimes Calling Heaven Is A Little Complicated

Posted on March 23, 2013 by Cool Pappa

Get a good look, as this iconic sign is even gone in The D.!

I was at my aunt’s house last month when she had us cracking up with this little story:

Her granddaughter wanted to use her mom’s cell phone.

Her mom asked her, “Who are you calling?”

Granddaughter responds, “I’m calling Jesus!”

Mom says, “Really, what’s his number?”

Granddaughters says, “666-111”

Mom replies, “That’s not Jesus’s number, that’s the devil’s number!”

Granddaughters comes back with, “Oh, then 12345.”

Mom comes back just as quick with, “Well, you better use Nanna’s phone then cause that’s long distance!”

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CSD Hide Your Son or Daughter Watch: Kanye and Kim Are Having A Baby!

Posted on December 31, 2012 by Cool Pappa

Lets end the year with the things that American’s care about most:

The Fiscal Cliff!

Source: Business Week – Illustration by 731

SIKE! (That’s old school for, “NOT”)

Ah, forget that Fiscal Cliff stuff and the impact it is going to have on the middle class and how it might plunge the country right back into a recession. Who wants to read over the Simpson-Bowles plan anyway?

That mess is way too boring.

Plus, we are “going over” anyway, so lets party!

Lets get on to the more important things in life: Kanye West and Kim Kardashian are expecting a child!

Now, how did the proud pappa to be announce it to the world?

“Her boyfriend Kanye West announced the exciting news during his concert at Revel in Atlantic City on Sunday. The rapper said “stop the music””, then announced “make noise for my baby mama right here.” (http://www.zimbio.com/)

Wow.

Really?

Gents, we are about to hit another year. As a man who has been there, it’s all smiles and giggles at this stage of the game. But whether we are talking about Kanye, Cool Pappa, or John-Fill-in-the-Blank, your future child deserves to be brought up in a home with both parents. Now it’s bad enough this child will grow up with parents who have a quite interesting past to say the least, but if (or maybe when) this relationship goes south, he or she will be a celebrity football and likely starring on the Kardashian’s reality show in one shape of form and likely without daddy.

You know what that means right? Hide your son or daughter because if this baby follows in momma or daddy’s footsteps, your holiday family get-together’s may become a lot more interesting!

Will they even get married? If not, what’s their excuse for not doing so? Maybe they have to wait until they get their finances straight. According to Forbes.com, the net worth of K.W. is $35 million (as of May 2012) and K.K. is said to be over $40 million according to Forbes (as of June 2012).

I remember having conversations with a guy who believed low-income people should not have children and that is justification for the push for Planned-Parenthood and other abortion clinics in urban low-income areas. My retort was that why is this always the group that gets sterilized and focused upon, but no one seems to have an issue with Hollywood celebrities intentionally raising children out-of-wedlock?

So money is the antidote for problems facing single-parent households? Money and fame fill in the gap for the stability of a two-parent household?

I don’t think so…homie don’t play that one.

I’ve been there on both sides, so this is not just theory for me. That said, we never know what life may bring us. So if we unintentionally find ourselves in the position of being a single-parent then we must rise. However, as I’m sure both KW and KK, each of whom has lost a parent, will admit that mom and dad bring something unique to the table. Therefore, it should still be upheld as the standard and news like this only publicly lowers the bar for society.

That’s not good for Hollywood or The Hood.

But let me end with a note of optimism, because maybe Kanye said it best, “Now I ain’t saying she’s a gold-digger, but she ain’t messin’ with no broke….”.

So what do you think?

Let us know in the comment section below!

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Merry Christmas From CornerstoneDad – Just Press Play While Opening Gifts

Posted on December 24, 2012 by Cool Pappa

“Back In The Day”, Lillpappa used to always play Christmas music while the family opened gifts and until it was time to leave for my Godmother’s or Grandfather’s house.

That tradition remains the same for me and my household, as there’s nothing like having some good music in the background while we open presents.

So my gift to you all is from one of my favorite DJ’s ever, EJ Flavors. If everybody has a twin, this guy is my music twin for sure. You ever feel like you’re the only person that likes a particular song or artist? Well, I thought I was until I found out about EJ and all the jams that I’m sure we nod our heads to when they come on.

You know this mix is bad when it starts with Donny singing “This Christmas”!

So check out his Christmas 2009 mix, turn those speakers up, and open some presents while introducing the kids to some good music!

Click: EJ Flavors Christmas Music

Merry Christmas from CSD and keep spinning the classics EJ!

Playlist:

01 – Donny Hathaway – This Christmas
02 – Stevie Wonder – Someday At Christmas
03 – Luther Vandross – A Kiss For Christmas
04 – Sounds of Blackness – Soul Holidays
05 – BeBe & CeCe Winans_BeBe Winans_CeCe Winans – Jingle Bells
06 – The Salsoul Orchestra – The Little Drummer Boy
07 – Mariah Carey – All I Want for Christmas Is You
08 – Boyz II Men/Brian McKnight/Wanya Morris – Let It Snow
09 – Take 6 – Oh! He Is Christmas
10 – Mariah Carey – O Holy Night
11 – The Jackson 5 – Santa Claus Is Coming to Town
12 – The Whispers – The Christmas Song
13 – Luther Vandross – O Come All Ye Faithful
14 – Alexander O’Neal – Remember Why (It’s Christmas)
15 – New Edition – The Joy Of Christmas
16 – Vanessa Williams – Baby, It’s Cold Outside
17 – Stevie Wonder – Ave Maria
18 – Luther Vandross – Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas
19 – Lou Rawls – Santa Claus Is Coming to Town
20 – Johnny Gill – Give Love on Christmas Day
21 – Jackson 5 – I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus
22 – Wham! – Last Christmas
23 – Luther Vandross – At Christmas Time
24 – The Salsoul Orchestra – Merry Christmas All
25 – Boyz II Men – Silent Night
26 – Lou Rawls – What Are You Doing New Years Eve_
27 – Whitney Houston – Who Would Imagine a King
28 – Ray Parker, Jr. – Christmas Time Is Here
29 – Lou Rawls – Christmas Will Really Be Christmas
30 – Luther Vandross – Every Year, Every Christmas
31 – New Edition – Give Love On Christmas Day
32 – En Vogue – Silent Night (Happy Holiday Mix)
33 – TLC – Sleigh Ride
34 – Run DMC – Christmas In Hollis
35 – King Sun D Moet – Christmas in the City
36 – Treacherous Three – Santa’s Rap (Beat Street Mix)
37 – The Rap All-Stars – Last Christmas
38 – Prince and the Revolution – Another Lonely Christmas
39 – Alexander O’Neal – Remember Why (It’s Christmas) Reprise

CSD Thought of the Day: Realize Who You Are To Her

Posted on November 8, 2012 by Cool Pappa

I’ve finally finished Meg Meeker’s book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, and thought it was absolutely extraordinary.

There are so many great thoughts in the book, that I’d like to share a few of them periodically here.

Today’s thought: Realize Who You Are To Her

“When she is a baby, her eyes will search for your face. Her ears will listen for your voice and everything inside her will need to answer only one question, “Daddy, are you here?” If you are there, her body will grow better. Her IQ will start to rise, her development will track where it is supposed to, but more important, she will realize that life is good because you love her. You are her introduction to love; you are love itself.”

It’s been quite a few years since my little girls were in the baby stage. But I still remember those days. There was something about seeing them and knowing that one my roles would be as the protector of her heart, mind and body. The ground that I lay in her life in regards to love will determine how love is perceived and grows in all the other areas of her life.

Dad’s this is definitely one of those areas where both of you will reap what you sow.

So what kind of ground will you sow today? What kind of “soil of love” (I know that sounds cheesy, but it fit) are you creating in her life?

I remember I missed class because of the birth of my first daughter. Dr. Lyn Lewis, my professor at the time, told me that I would have a larger impact on the life of my daughter than my wife would. Over eleven years later, I realize how truly right she was and I’m still trying to make sure that impact is far more positive, than negative.

How about you?

If you have an adult daughter, how did you do and do you have any advice for the rest of us CSDs? Let us know in the comments below!

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