IMA Book Addict! Excerpt of the Day from: The Way We Never Were – American Families and the Nostalgia Trap

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“Contrary to popular opinion, “Leave It To Beaver” was not a documentary…A full 25 percent of Americans, forty to fifty million people, were poor in the mid-1950’s, and in the absence of food stamps and housing programs, this poverty was searing. Even at the end of the 1950’s, a third of American children were poor. Sixty percent of Americans over sixty-five had incomes below $1,000 in 1958, considerably below the $3,000 to $10,000 level considered to represent middle-class status. A majority of elders also lacked medical insurance…Even when we consider only native-born, white families, one-third could not get by on the income of the household head.”

Excerpt from, The Way We Never Were by Stephanie Coontz

The Struggle That Must Be, Today and In the Future

When I was in my early 20s, there was one non-professional athlete that impacted my worldview like none other. The man, Dr. Harry Edwards. I was always interested in sociology and of course I loved sports, and when I learned of this field created by Dr. Edwards called Sociology of Sport, it was love at first sight. While God by His sovereign grace has me where I am today, if I could do everything over, I’d head to a school with a Sociology of Sport program to earn the academic credentials and attack the profession like Mike Tyson in the ring during his prime. I remember telling my mentor that I wanted to become the next Harry Edwards when I first went to see her about transferring into sociology and out of sports medicine. However, she knew what I would later find out, yet she didn’t crush my enthusiasm, and that was the fact that I’d never be worthy to even tie up his shoe laces, let alone fill his shoes.

Source: www.dailytexanonline.com

Source: http://www.dailytexanonline.com; I should not have to tell you, but just in case you do not know, that’s Jim Brown (far left), Bill Russell (center) and Dr. Harry Edwards (far right)

I wish I could meet Dr. Harry Edwards. Whenever I find out that he’s done and interview somewhere, I’m on the hunt and all ears because I know I’ll become wiser after listening to this man. Now I just wish that we could hear more from him in our digital era, as it would be so much easier to have access to his knowledge. But then again, I wouldn’t be as proud as I am to have three of his great books, Sociology of Sport, The Revolt Of The Black Athlete and The Struggle That Must Be.

While we are proud of the stand the athletes like Derrick Rose, LeBron James, Reggie Bush and others are taking as they protest African-American men being gunned down in the United States by the police as if they were being caught in a Sundown Town of the 1940s, the protests are now being compared to that organized by Dr. Edwards at the 1968 Summer Olympics in Mexico City. The Black Power salute by John Carlos and Tommie Smith set the bar high, created a new path, and must be something our children (especially those that play sports)  never forget. My kids do not, as they have the poster right above the computer in our living room. My two oldest boys were given the John Carlos Story as Christmas gifts right after it hit shelves and when I worked with young athletes as a strength and conditioning coach, I even encouraged them to not just carry a ball, but carry a message. When you carry a message, you carry yourself with more responsibility as well. It’s a responsibility to hold tightly to the opportunity that’s been afforded to you.

I could go on and on, but that’s what made me feel encouraged about the discussion at ESPN by Jemele Hill, Chris Broussard and Stephen A. Smith. The discussion was on Athletes and Activism.

See video HERE.

First, just the fact that one black woman and two black men can sit on a major network and discuss and frame what the black athlete is doing is quite an accomplishment. Yes I’m aware, as Smith and Broussard know first hand, that if they go too far out, the dominant-society will take them out to the woodshed. But just to at least be able to talk and teach, that’s progress and that is the kind of talk we have in our homes and at family gatherings.

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Why? Because in 1968, here was the response by Brent Musburger (yes, that one), as described by David Zirin (if you don’t listen to the Edge of Sports podcast, you should) in The Nation in 2012:

“In 1968 Musburger was a restless, ambitious young sports writer looking to make his name. He found his opportunity when Smith and Carlos made their stand. Musburger didn’t see a demonstration. He saw a target.

“One gets a little tired of having the United States run down by athletes who are enjoying themselves at the expense of their country,” he wrote. Musburger then infamously called Smith and Carlos “a pair of black-skinned stormtroopers.”

Second, the athletes of our past dawned the “Scarlet P” for protester, called trouble-makers, said to have had bad-attitudes or received labels like above and were considered uppity negroes. In the case of John Carlos, he lost relationships that money could never replace. Yet, I’m hopeful that some of today’s athletes understand their power, prestige and privilege. Their brand is the trunk of the tree, and now they can have multiple branches (i.e. revenue streams) to feed that tree. So they are no longer beholden as much to the league or owner that believes if he lets him go for not being a “good boy”, that another owner won’t break the code and pick him up.

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That said, I hope that athletes of today protesting are doing more than just sporting t-shirts, but I hope they are writing checks as well. I understand that a grown person can spend their cash any way they would like, but money gets movement in our Land of Milk and Honey. So if athletes can show all the bling on Cribs, I’m hoping they can put some skin in the game as well with some dollars.

Remember, C.R.E.A.M.

So we’ve come a long way and I’m happy to see my kids take a strong stance on civil right issues at the age of 25 down to the age of 8. They know whether they carry a ball or not, I expect them to carry a message, and it’s those messages that I know will out live me and provide hope for so many of my upcoming generations as I have a feeling that they will still need to put on their gloves and continue to fight for justice years from now.

“Lost” Stories of America – Legalized Race Riots Against Minorities

Today I’ve heard and read a few comments from people basically saying that the violence in Ferguson is representative of black people in general. That we all are violent, and therefore, it should be no surprise that police react to us in the way that they do. This is usually also delivered with a subtle cue that white people do not riot, and they certainly do not riot over racial issues.

Today we will debunk that lie. Rioting is no longer necessary by white society to exercise it’s social control and dominance. But historically, it has always been whites in this country that have rioted over racial issues, NOT black folks, when they felt justice was not served. 

Don’t believe me? Ask your parents or grandparents! Ask what the reaction was in the neighborhood when black kids started coming to their schools and churches. I’d love to hear the responses below.

1.) Little Rock – 1957: 

2.) Detroit Race Riot – 1943: 

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https://www.mtholyoke.edu/courses/rschwart/clio/detroit_riot/DetroitNewsRiots1943.htm

3.) Omaha – 1919: 

4.) Texas – 1916: 

5.) Tulsa – 1921: 

6.) Chicago – 1919: http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/chicago-race-riot-of-1919/videos

7.) Greenboro Sit-Ins: https://www.awesomestories.com/asset/view/Greensboro-Four-Woolworth-Lunch-Counter

8.) NJ – 1923: 

Those are just a few examples of rioting in this country, long before the ’60s race riots, Rodney King and now Ferguson. So if you hear someone yet again talking about “those people” in Ferguson, as if they are just a bunch of uncivilized savages, please share and ask, “So who do you think taught them to act in such a way?” or as my good friend would ask, “So what happened the day before?”

The answer is, the day before, parents, “good Christians”, college students, “hard-workers”, we out rioting, looting, killing, stealing and taking justice into their own hands when someone dared to move into their neighborhood, go to their schools, or break the Jim Crow color barrier.

However, one thing has remained the same, the dominant-society still escapes prosecution.

This only builds my faith in an eternal, all-knowing and all-seeing God that is also just.

Isaiah 61:8

For I the Lord love justice; I hate robbery and wrong; I will faithfully give them their recompense, and I will make an everlasting covenant with them.

This Video Summarizes Why I Started CornerstoneDad

I’ve never met this brother.

I’d like to though.

In 4-minutes, he broke down a struggle that I had known for many, many years.

What he said was not very profound, for it is a story that many of us know so too well.

But it is profound, because he put it together in a poetic way, unleashing the pain, sadness, desire and compassion that only a father on the outside can feel.

Prentice Powell, keep spreading your message man, because brothers like us see every Father’s Day in a unique way.

We also know that our metric of a good father is not defined by our son’s mother, our friends, or the judge in a courtroom, but by that person we see in the mirror. That’s what makes us fight.

CSD

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7B71p19_KuY

Send A Kid To Gym Class and You Build Him For A Day; Dad, Teach Him the Deadlift and Build Him For A Lifetime

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The road to more athleticism, muscle and aging currency is paved with the deadlift. I’m taking  great pleasure in teaching my son the lift while he’s still young and establishing a solid base of strength. Of course I say, “taking”, because this will be an ongoing process as it may take many months for him to learn how to deadlift and squat properly. However, he’ll carry the knowledge and coordination for the rest of this life instead of the injuries like I do from being young and dumb (okay, I was 27 but young in experience).

That said, today was the first time in my life I think of had someone to record me performing an exercise, so I was able to critique my own form during Rack Deadlifts. While I still think my form could be a bit tighter, I’m glad to see my back stayed rigid. In a…

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Setting Records and Clankin’ Steel – Great Way To End January’s Strength Phase

I’m still working out, but follow the progress and workouts over at:
olddadstrength.wordpress.com!

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It’s actually beginning to happen. The Large Professor is beginning to get noticed by the veterans in the gym and they are giving him props for putting in the work.  Strength-wise, he is progressing very well as his workouts are very similar to mine with about the same number of sets. This means that his body is allowed to adjust and learn how to handle increasingly heavier loads set-after-set.

Now handling increasingly heavier loads is exactly what I’ve been able to do this phase. I finished with PRs on every day over the last week and felt great. The extra upper-body day has allowed my lower back to be fresh on squat and deadlift days which means more fresh days are being stored in the tank.

Overall, out of the 31 days in January, I did some lifting or treadmill (oh how I hate that thing) 27 days. That’s how I…

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CSD StrongDad Program: Jan. 1, ’14 – Get The New Year Started Right With New Gym PRs!

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Sam’s Lesson: Working Out Doesn’t Stop Damage To The Body, But May Help Withstand Against More Damage To The Body

Sam didn’t tell me his age straight away, but told me that he had a heart attack in the gym. I could tell a bit by his speech, but this guy was pretty ripped to be “older”, and he said that he had been training for 40 years and used to compete in bodybuilding contests. Then, when he told me he was 70 years old, my mouth dropped! First, because he didn’t look that old. Second, here was a guy that had a heart attack in the gym, lost 88 lbs., and still comes in to get his workout on. I think the lesson from Sam is simple. Working out may not keep heart attacks from happening, strokes from happening, diabetes from coming, etc., because our body’s get old and are not designed to live forever. But working out will help you bounce back after suffering injuries, illness or medical trauma. I’ve experienced this on a lessor scale as I never missed a planned workout after breaking my hand and wearing a cast for six months. Four years later, my left arm is only one rep weaker than my right, and people gave me props on the gym for still coming, cast and all, day after day. Then here’s Sam, a guy that was determined to not let something that has already changed his life, take more of his life away from him.

It’s a New Year, and today many are hitting the gym for the first time in months. After a couple of weeks, if they didn’t drop out because they are so “busy”, many will drop out because they will begin having joint pain from either improper form, doing too much too soon, or maybe just because their body is getting older and can’t do as much as they thought.

That’s NO EXCUSE. If anything, it should make you want to go back and be even more determined, but wiser. Look at your kids. Aren’t they worth the “rehab”? If your knee, back, shoulder hurts, don’t you want to be able to run or throw the ball with them or your grandkids? If you were an athlete and we’re being paid an easy million to come back after a major surgery, you know you would do it. So how much is playing with them worth?

Sadly, and from what I’m seeing more as I get older, somebody’s going to get the exercise in. It’ll either be you now, or your kids/grandkids pushing you in a wheelchair.

If Sam didn’t stop because of a heart attack, you and I really have no excuse. So be determined that if you are working out again to start the New Year, that nothing will get in your way. NOTHING!

Now Happy New Year to me as I set new PRs for Rack Pulls and Hammer Lat Rows!

Weight: 221.5

Sleep: 7 hrs.

Wed, Jan 1, 2014
Exercise Weight
(lb)
Reps Rest %
1RM
%
Ttl Weight
1 Rack DeadliftsBAM!!! Happy New Year To D!

1RM: 645

Ttl Weight: 7,625

Ttl Reps: 25

Avg Weight: 305

1 135 × 5 90 21% 8.9%
2 225 × 5 90 35% 14.8%
3 275 × 5 90 43% 18.0%
4 315 × 3 90 49% 12.4%
5 365 × 1 90 57% 4.8%
6 405 × 1 90 63% 5.3%
7 455 × 1 90 71% 6.0%
8 495 × 1 90 77% 6.5%
9 545 × 1 90 84% 7.1%
10 595 × 1 90 92% 7.8%
11 645 × 1 90 100% 8.5%

2 Hammer Lat PulldownCan’t fit any more plates on machine!

1RM: 231.4

Ttl Weight: 3,325

Ttl Reps: 30

Avg Weight: 110.8

1 45 × 10 60 19% 13.5%
2 90 × 5 60 39% 13.5%
3 115 × 5 60 50% 17.3%
4 135 × 3 60 58% 12.2%
5 180 × 3 60 78% 16.2%
6 225 × 1 60 97% 6.8%
7 230 × 1 60 99% 6.9%
8 225 × 2 60 97% 13.5%

3 Lateral Raises (Machine)

1RM (1)

Ttl Weight: 2,110

Ttl Reps: 27

Avg Weight: 78.1

1 70 × 12 60 39.8%
2 90 × 7 60 29.9%
3 80 × 8 60 30.3%

4 Cable Crunches (Kneeling)

1RM (1)

Ttl Weight: 1,485

Ttl Reps: 30

Avg Weight: 49.5

1 35 × 12 45 28.3%
2 42.5 × 10 45 28.6%
3 80 × 8 45 43.1%

5 Treadmill Running

time: 0:32:57
distance: 2 mi
avg heart rate: 135
max heart rate: 144

1/1/14 – All exercises (lb)

Workout duration

Total: 0     Cardio: 0:32:57     Other: 0

Total weight 14545 lb
Lats 10950 lb
Lower Back 7625 lb
Side Delts 2110 lb
Abs 1485 lb

Other exercised muscles: Trapezius (Traps), Gluteus maximus (Glutes), Anterior Deltoids (Front Delts), Obliques, Forearm muscles (Forearms), Hamstrings (Rear Thighs), Quadriceps (Front Thighs), Posterior Deltoids (Rear Delts)

CSD StrongDad Program: Dec. 26, ’13 – Lessons From A Gym Guy Named Sam

I appear as an extremely anti-social guy when I’m in the gym. I simply hate for my workout to be interrupted because some dude wants to talk about football or tell me about his life. I usually put my headphones on and keep my head down even avoiding eye-contact with people as I don’t want them to even think that I’m there to socialize.

But every now-and-then, I’m glad I get interrupted, because the real me can come out. 

This day, I was interrupted by an older guy named Sam. I’m going to throw a few nuggets of wisdom Sam through at me in about 15 minutes of conversation.

First, Sam got my attention to tell me that he was very impressed with Rack Deadlift weight. I felt really good and appreciated that compliment and after hearing more of Sam’s story, I appreciated that statement even more! Lillpappa and my uncle put in the me desire to always take the time to soak of the knowledge of older people. When they die, that wisdom dies with them. What a pleasure it is when they stop to teach and tell me things and they don’t even know me. 

So if I can encourage you today, over the next month, find your “Sam”. Find that older person that plants seeds in your life and then they walk away. They leave it up to you to water it and bear fruit in the future. 

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Thu, Dec 26, 2013   0:55 (10:08 AM – 11:03 AM)
  Exercise   Weight
(lb)
Reps Rest %
1RM
%
Ttl Weight
 
 

1 Rack Deadlifts

Felt great!

1RM: 575

12/4/13: 635

Ttl Weight: 7,165

Ttl Reps: 21

Avg Weight: 341.2

1 225 × 5 90 35% 15.7%
2 275 × 5 90 43% 19.2%
3 315 × 3 90 50% 13.2%
4 365 × 3 90 57% 15.3%
5 405 × 1 90 64% 5.7%
6 495 × 1 90 78% 6.9%
7 575 × 1 90 91% 8.0%
8 575 × 1 90 91% 8.0%
9 575 × 1 90 91% 8.0%

2 Machine Seated Rear Raises

1RM: 174.6

12/8/13: 203.3

Ttl Weight: 4,000

Ttl Reps: 25

Avg Weight: 160

1 160 × 12 60 79% 48.0%
2 160 × 9 60 79% 36.0%
3 160 × 4 60 79% 16.0%

3 Shoulder Press (Smith Machine)

1RM: 160

12/20/13: 164.6

Ttl Weight: 1,330

Ttl Reps: 11

Avg Weight: 120.9

1 90 × 5 60 55% 33.8%
2 140 × 3 60 85% 31.6%
3 150 × 1 60 91% 11.3%
4 150 × 1 60 91% 11.3%
5 160 × 1 60 97% 12.0%

12/26/13 – All exercises (lb)

Total weight 12495 lb
Lats 7165 lb
Lower Back 7165 lb
Rear Delts 4000 lb
Front Delts 1330 lb

Other exercised muscles: Trapezius (Traps), Gluteus maximus (Glutes), Lateral Deltoid (Side Delts), Triceps, Pectoralis (Pecs), Rectus abdominis (Abs), Forearm muscles (Forearms), Hamstrings (Rear Thighs), Quadriceps (Front Thighs)

CornerstoneDad Announcement: Cornerstone…Grandfather?

My son KD, now has one that he will lead...

My son KD, now has one that he will lead…

Yes, that’s right!

Kory Devon is now building his own quiver, making me a Grandfather.

It is amazing to think that our family now has another generation added to it.

My grandfather was “Pop”.

My father took on the name “Lillpappa”.

Therefore, I will be taking on “Cool Pappa”.

This is also influenced by Negro League baseball player, James “Cool Papa” Bell.

While I’m sure I’ll be blogging about many of my thoughts from the eldership promotion, I’ll say right now that the biggest blessing that remains on my mind is that my father is still alive, I am still alive, my son is still alive and my grandson is now alive. Together, we all now span almost seven decades of life. From WWII, the Civil Rights Movement, Reaganomics, computers, the internet, 9/11, The War on Drugs, The War on Terror and so much more.

God has been so good, so all I can do now is just be so thankful…for life.

CSD aka “Cool Pappa”

Happy Birthday To My Son KD!

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If you’ve been a regular listener to the CornerstoneDad podcast (if not, check out the episodes), you’ve heard my son KD on quite a few shows break down his thoughts on sports, race, relationships and anything else thrown at him.

Today is his 24th birthday!

When I was 24, he was 3 1/2 years old. I was working at a grocery store and was entering my 5th year there, struggling to figure out what to do with my life. The only stability I had at that time, was my then girlfriend and now wife, oh yea…and my Mustang!

However, there’s one thing I’m pretty confident about, and that’s the impact that young man had on my life.

Without him, there would likely be no CornerstoneDad.com, because it is through our trials and tribulations that made me appreciate my role even more.

Once again I’d like to remind my young dad’s out there to keep pressing. If you’re struggling being a young father while you’re trying to grow up and be a man your own-self, think of this time period out there as a football game:

0-5 yrs. old – 1st quarter

6-10 yrs. old – 2nd quarter

11-15 yrs. old – 3rd quarter

16-20 yrs. old – 4th quarter

Now, which QB will you be? When I was younger, I always knew that Joe Montana could make comeback. Dan Marino could make a comeback. You did not turn the channel because you never wanted to be “that guy” on Tuesday morning after Monday Night Football to hear, “You didn’t see what happened last night?”, because you turned the game off and went to bed because you thought the game was over. Not with those guys, because even if the Niners or the Dolphins would lose, the game would almost always be close in the end.

Will you give up because of the struggle in the 1st quarter or the 1st half? Oftentimes, the 3rd quarter determines the game, so if you have a good lead (relationship), will you relax and lose it in the 4th quarter? Are you a Peyton Manning or Tom Brady (the two top active career comeback leaders in NFL history) that are always determined to win, no matter what the early quarters looked like? Are you steadfast on remaining in the game because of your integrity and even if you “lose”, the court system, your child’s mother, your relatives, her relatives will all know, that you’re a fighter? You’ll fight to see or be involved in your child’s life regardless of the obstacles.

Personally, I wanted to throw in the towel in every quarter of the game. When the picture above was taken, seeing that young man at 24 was out of my realm of possibility. I thought the tough times would never end.

God is good,  and was working even when I was not a good father, and I praise him for allowing me to see my son turn 24, and for me to be alive to say, Happy Birthday for yet another year.

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One Of My Mentors In The Faith, Chuck Smith of Calvary Chapel, Has Gone Home

I’ve been so busy lately and on a bit if a media blackout. One of the stories that got past me was one that saddened me quite a bit, Chuck Smith Pastor of Calvary Chapel died earlier this month at the age of 86.

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While I have never met Chuck Smith, his impact on my spiritual life was profound. My father (men, my father, get it?) played Chuck Smith sermons in the cassette deck of our ’77 Pontiac Bonneville (400 c.i., 4 bbl. and get this, 185 hp!) or in our home all the time. It seemed “Pastor Chuck” and John MacArthur of Grace To You were on heavy rotation in our household. They were who we listened to on those four-day trips to California that we made annually in the late ’70s.

While I’d later have a few theological differences with Chuck Smith (more from what I’ve heard from others than from what I’ve actually heard him teach), he was one of the first preachers I heard as a kid that didn’t scream, spit, and have a hype-man. He just said, “Would you open your Bible to ___ and verse ____.” Then he’s spend the next 30 minutes teaching off of two verses, breaking down the time period, culture, fit in overall scripture, etc.. True biblical exegesis, critically explaining and examine the text.

Without Chuck, there probably would be no “UNITE REPORT” on this blog! Yes, Chuck did love talking about Bible prophesy and the End Times, but personally I never remember him throwing out a date like the article below mentions. From everything I remember hearing, he’d always point out the fact that our society is now getting to a place that from a technical standpoint, Christ could come back and a cashless society that is able to track citizens anywhere and force them to submit to the system of the anti-christ is now possible. At no time in history had this been possible, so I think Chuck was fascinated by this fact. Of course, I remember Chuck saying this back in the ’70’s, when these new things were just coming out called, “scanners” and “computer chips”. Being the great bible teacher that he was, I find it hard to believe that he gave an exact date for Christ’s return, but I think Chuck may have certainly said something like, “I think it is very likely Christ could return in the next 10 years.” I’m sure he was well aware of:

“But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” Matt. 24:36

But like so many before, and like I’m sure Chuck always knew, and like we have to remember, we’ll likely be going home before that Great Day. So we must be prepared for the rapture or the grave at all times.

So there are two lessons I’ve learned as I reflect on Chuck Smith:

1.) Dad’s, we are the gatekeepers, especially for our boys on what’s sound doctrine within our homes. My dad introduced me to Christian Apologetics long before I ever knew what the term was and had us listening to solid teachers like Chuck Smith, John MacArthur and Walter Martin. When you listened to these guys, you were not going to hear a message where having your bible was optional. If you didn’t have it, you were lost! Guys where a “good message” wasn’t on politics, tithing equals prosperity and healing. A good message “open your bible, turn to”, “now, what are you going to do with God’s word?” and the Gospel.

2.) The aforementioned guys have messages that live forever and never grow stale. As we’ve all learned with J. Vernon McGee, start at Genesis, push forward. After Revelation 22, repeat. If you do it over and over again, you never have to worry about politics or the “Christian Hot Topic of The Day”, and your life’s work can live forever.

My prayers go out to Chuck Smith’s family and Calvary Chapel in “Costa Mesa, California” (after ever broadcast they’d say the home of the church and it seemed to have the coolest name). I’m sure you know that the man you all loved impacted so many people for the Kingdom of God and although I never got to meet my man on this side, I look forward to some great conversations on the other.

Here are the links to the ministries of the men above:

Chuck Smith: http://www.twft.com/

John MacArthur – http://www.gty.org/

Walter Martin: http://www.waltermartin.com/

J. Vernon McGee: http://www.ttb.org/

Ironically, the article below was sent by who? My dad, Lillpappa…how fitting. Please check it out and if you have any comments, please leave them below.

SOURCE: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/10/14/us/chuck-smith-minister-who-preached-to-flower-children-dies-at-86.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

Chuck Smith, Minister Who Preached to Flower Children, Dies at 86

The Rev. Chuck Smith, a Southern California minister who shepherded flower children and rock ’n’ roll into the conservative wing of the evangelical movement while building a religious organization that grew to encompass 700 congregations and hundreds of radio stations, died on Oct. 3 at his home in Newport Beach, Calif. He was 86.

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The cause was lung cancer, said a spokesman for Calvary Chapel of Costa Mesa, the flagship church of Mr. Smith’s worldwide Calvary Chapel federation.

Though lesser known than evangelical leaders like the Rev. Pat Robertson and the Rev. James C. Dobson, Mr. Smith was influential for his liturgical innovations, for the cultivation of a new generation of prominent preachers and for the introduction of pop culture into the evangelical movement’s vernacular.

His amalgam of fire-and-brimstone theology and avuncular charm made him a successful if unlikely Christian fundamentalist ambassador to the youth culture of the late 1960s. He predicted the end of the world and condemned drug use, sex out of wedlock, abortion and homosexuality while serving as pastor to a hippie tribe known as the Jesus Movement.

To his ragged following he was Papa Chuck, and he welcomed them to his church by the thousands, accepting their barefoot, floor-sitting, outdoor-living habits and incorporating their rock music into his Sunday services — an innovation that other evangelical churches as well as mainline Protestant and Roman Catholic churches later adopted.

His decision to dispense with the traditional liturgy, replace pipe organs with electric guitars, preach from the pulpit in a Hawaiian shirt if he felt like it and give the same come-as-you-are rights to worshipers set the standard in the 1970s for what the church historian Donald E. Miller, a professor of religion at the University of Southern California, has called the “new paradigm” of independent Christian megachurches.

Mr. Smith’s disavowal of denominational labels — he did not call his church Pentecostal, Baptist or Assembly of God, but rather “just a Christian church” — has also been widely embraced in the evangelical world.

In 1971, Mr. Smith helped found Maranatha Music, one of the first contemporary Christian record companies in the United States, partly to provide a platform for the Christian musicians and songwriters who performed at his church. The group Love Song,one of the first Christian rock groups, was for a time a kind of house band at Calvary Chapel. In 1996, Mr. Smith and a protégé, Mike Kestler, founded the Calvary Satellite Network, which broadcasts sermons and Christian music over about 400 low-power and 50 full-power stations in 45 states.

Mr. Smith himself was never a fiery preacher and rarely appeared on television. His sermons, with line-by-line explications of the Bible, were more professorial than charismatic.

Outside Calvary Chapel, he was probably best known for the people he mentored. Those who went on to lead large evangelical organizations of their own included Greg Laurie, pastor of Harvest Christian Fellowship, a network of several hundred churches; and Kenn Gulliksen, the founder of a church movement called Vineyard, who introduced Bob Dylan to evangelical Christianity, which Mr. Dylan embraced in the 1970s and early ’80s. (Mr. Gulliksen is often referred to as “Bob Dylan’s pastor.”)

It was Mr. Smith’s simple teaching style and easygoing manner, mainly, that drew members of the Jesus Movement to his church in 1969, after his own teenage children had introduced him to movement followers they had befriended at the beach. One was Lonnie Frisbee, a self-described mystic and prophet who became prominent in the movement.

With Mr. Frisbee as his liaison, Mr. Smith was soon holding mass baptisms in the surf at Corona del Mar, dunking longhaired men and women in the Pacific by the hundreds. Some called them “Jesus freaks,” a phrase Time magazine used in a 1971 cover article about the movement.

“It looked like no congregation anyone had ever seen before,” Mr. Laurie wrote in his 2008 memoir, “Lost Boy.” “Barefoot hippies sat on the floor, praising the Lord, while old ladies in hats smiled, shrugged and sang their hymns.”

Randall Balmer, a scholar of evangelical culture and chairman of the Dartmouth College religion department, said in an interview that even in a congregation that embraced the counterculture, Mr. Smith never sugarcoated his fundamentalist beliefs. Besides condemning illicit sex and recreational drugs, he called homosexuality “a perverted lifestyle,” warned of the eternal hell awaiting sinners and promised the imminent arrival of Armageddon. (He said the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks signaled God’s displeasure with the general acceptance of homosexuality and abortion.)

Mr. Balmer said some of Mr. Smith’s young followers might have been disillusioned with the counterculture and searching for spiritual sustenance elsewhere when they joined Calvary Chapel. But the pastor’s genius for incorporating counterculture trappings into his brand of evangelism was part of his appeal too, Mr. Balmer said, as was his sheer likability.

“This was a very charming man,” he said.

Charles Ward Smith was born in Ventura, Calif., on June 25, 1927, to Charles and Maude Smith, whom he described to interviewers as “Bible quoting” Christians. His father was a salesman.

After graduating in 1948 from the Bible college of the Foursquare Church, a Pentecostal denomination, Mr. Smith served several of its congregations before leaving, convinced that internal politics was the “un-Christian” scourge of Foursquare and every other denomination.

“The more spiritual a man is, the less denominational he becomes,” he wrote years later.

He started his own church in the early 1960s and in 1965 agreed to become pastor of Calvary Chapel, which was then a struggling nondenominational congregation with about 25 members. By the 1970s, attendance at Sunday services averaged 3,000.

He is survived by his wife, Catherine L. Johnson Smith; four children, Chuck Jr., Jeff, Janette Smith Manderson and Cheryl Smith Brodersen; and five grandchildren.

Based on his reading of the Book of Revelation, Mr. Smith began predicting the end of the world in the early 1980s. Although his predictions repeatedly proved wrong, he was undeterred. “Every year I believe this could be the year,” he told an interviewer. “We are one year closer than we were.”

A version of this article appears in print on October 14, 2013, on page D8 of the New York edition with the headline: Chuck Smith, 86, Minister; Preached to Flower Children.

All-Pro Dad’s Asks: How Do You Know if You Are a Successful Father?

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Source: All-Pro Dad’s Blog: http://www.allprodad.com/blog/2013/09/13/how-do-you-know-if-you-are-a-successful-father/

People define success many ways.  One version goes like this:

At age 4, success is…not wetting your pants.
At age 12, success is…having friends.
At age 17, success is…having a driver’s license.
At age 35, success is…having a good career.
At age 60, success is…getting out of your career.
At age 70, success is…having a driver’s license.
At age 80, success is…having friends.
At age 90, success is…not wetting your pants.

Perhaps a better definition of success, at least for fathers, is passion for his duty and the ability to love unconditionally. Possession of those two traits is the common denominator in all successful dads.  Here are 10 ways to know you are a successful father.

Huddle up with your children tonight and ask them: “What is success?”

10 Ways to Know You Are a Successful Father

“Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance.” (Ruth E. Renkel)  There is not one single path to successful parenting. All fathers are not created equal in method nor in standards. What sets a successful father apart from the pack is passion for his duty and the ability to love unconditionally. Possession of those two traits is the common denominator in all successful parents. The following list can be considered the “greatest hits” of an awesome Dad.

  1.  Real Communication

    Talking is the most valuable tool in a father’s belt. Conversation is information and information is understanding. Serious, funny, or totally random. Every conversation had with your child is invaluable to you as a parent. Know your child better than they know themselves. Then tailor your guidance towards that knowledge.

  2. Respect And Love Your Wife

    “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” (Rev. Theodore Hesburgh)  Your son will grow up one day to treat a woman the same way his father treated women. Your daughter will grow to expect the treatment that was provided in Dad’s example. This country has an epidemic of disrespectful young men and young women with low self-esteem. We are daily bombarded with examples of male prowess and female promiscuity. That’s no accident. We have a duty to stand and fight this battle against good family principles. That starts by always showing your wife the love and respect she deserves.

  3. The Bedtime Story

    Every time you read to your child, it’s an intimate and special moment. They have your full attention, and that’s the thing they crave most.  Daddy adds the funny voices and physical animations as he reads. Your daughter’s eyes light up and a smile takes over her face as you talk in your moose voice and put pretend antlers on your head. Silliness is something you both enjoy and understand, but more importantly this time together builds trust and makes your child feel secure.

  4. The Guard Dog

    Speaking of security, children crave it like you crave that Kit-Kat™ you have tucked away in your desk. A successful father has children who know that Dad will always be there to protect them—no matter what.  He’s a big, hairy, loveable guard-dog…ferocious when required, but gentle, loving and loyal to the very end

  5. Friends

    We are usually only as good as the company we keep. Friends are an important part of your child’s life. Chances are they spend more time in the company of their close friends than with you. That is a very large amount of influence that is not under your control. It is imperative that you have a relationship with these friends. Make the effort to know them as well as their parents. Your child’s friends should be diverse and inspiring.

  6. Discipline

    “Just wait until your father comes home.” What child hasn’t heard that at some point? Discipline is a responsibility that all parents experience. It’s not pretty and certainly not easy. The alternative is a spoiled and out of control child with no boundaries of behavior. There’s good news, though. A successful dad follows through on discipline enough times to gain respect from his children.  They have learned from experience not to test Dad. He means exactly what he says, and they can trust him to be consistent.

  7. The Good Humor Man

    A great dad has fun with his kids.  They joke, they laugh, they play and they hug.  No need to be a world class comedian.  To your kids, Dad, even when you’re not funny, it’s still comical.  Joking around with Dad is great fun for all children.  Let them.  Of course, there is a level of respect that should be maintained, but other than that, let yourself be teased occasionally.  They love it.  They love you.

  8. The Educator

    Class is in session and you are the professor. Life has many lessons that will either be learned the easy way or the hard way. Dad is the voice of experience. Share your wisdom early and often with your children. Your advice will not always be followed, but it should always be given.  Don’t be afraid to let your child fail.  Just be there afterwards to lovingly explain why failure occurred and sow the seeds to future success.

  9. Spiritual Leader

    A wise father realizes that God is in control.  Worship is a cornerstone in the life of a successful family. Guide them as they grow in their faith.  Be the man God would have you be.

  10. The Example

    “My Father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived and let me watch him do it.” (Clarence Budington Kelland)  Many parents make the mistake of stopping their own lives once they have children. Dedicating themselves and immersing their own hopes and dreams into the lives of their children. This is a tragic mistake for all involved. Be the example for them.  Show them how to live in a positive way—with passion, desire and joy in everything you do.